It’s 4am, and I’ve just staggered into my place from Long
Street, in Town. Even though I feel like sleeping somehow I can’t. I’m thinking
about what had transpired earlier this evening.
A friend of ours stood us up while we planned something
special for him. It was a surprise and it was ruined. A serious case of
miscommunication! This propelled me to write about them informing them of their
personality traits. I hope they read it and hopefully, change those personality
traits I dislike.
I mean, I have great friends who would willingly jump at the
chance to help me in times of trouble. And yes, I have friends who will cry
with me when I do, but their personalities leave me wonder where is that good
person I cried with when trouble erupted? We all have friends who you think
‘but his arrogance grinds my pancreas’ or ‘his show-off stunts is breaking our
friendship’. I do have friends that I wish I could remove certain personality
traits from, and here they are:
Sabelo, one of my best friends, he’s arrogant (and lots of
people have been caring enough to notify him), but he’s a good friend. He
cares. At times, his arrogance gets to me and make me contemplate giving him a
smack in the head just for control. Alas, I cannot. It’s a personality trait
one has to learn to live with. His family has also learned to live with it. But
friend, please do tone down a bit.
Lungisa, another best friend of mine, such a sweet soul but
at times, I wish I could remove his ‘No one will ever do anything to me, I will
fight them spirit’. Dude, we care about you. Stop trying to be brave, it’s the
21st century, and men are allowed to be weak and cry. We won’t judge
you. So, whenever an act of violence occurs, keep calm and pull yourself
towards yourself.
Another good friend of mine is Mzamo. Sweet human being whom
I think got corrupted by us along the way. He listens, crunches numbers and one
of the sane people in the group. However, sometimes he lets his feelings be the
judge of a situation. Guy, relax! Live a little, and don’t take everything
seriously.
The friends I have are hard to keep up with, and this one is
definitely one of the most energetic people I treasure – Lisa. He’s one good
friend whose number is on speed dial on my phone. If anything happens to me,
he’s in the top three people I would call. But, I wish he would stop talking
before thinking how it will affect the next person. I’ve often reprimanded him
of how rude he is (not in a bad way) but he speaks without thinking at times.
Maybe that’s because he’s into numbers as well. Sigh. The friends I keep.
The last one I will mention is Thando. He is such a happy
soul with a mind full of positive (and negative) things. He’s humble,
respectful but he also has a personality trait which I wish I could remove from
him. Thando likes to assess things, especially food. Last week we went out and
he blatantly analysed his meal with his fingers. Imagine! He removed certain bits and ate others. Child,
turn a blind eye and eat! Finish and Klaar and stop being (tjatjarag!).
This post was written with the love I have for my friends
and after this post, hopefully they will change their ways.
Of course, I have other friends which are perfectly sane
like Aisha, Memory (sometimes) and others which I have forgotten.
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