Losing friends...It's not right, but it's okay!

 I’ve lived long enough to realise that some things are bound to cause a stir, even minor things, and by writing this post, I’m definitely shooting myself in the foot by having those whom I’ve lost as friends despise me even more. But, who cares? I didn’t kill anyone nor have I done anyone wrong, they knew when I created this blog I said I would write about anything.

Friendship, I thought, was being frank with each other, and if something didn’t work, we honestly and lovingly tell our friends what we like and don’t like instead of being grumpy, conniving and ignoring one another. Besides, I thought being grumpy was a ‘woman’s thing’, I guess it lost the gender specification when two of my male friends took the stance to disown me as their friend. For what?  Even today I’m still waiting to find out what I did or didn’t do. Alas, it’s life. I wasn’t born with a sufficiently smart set of lifelong friends – ones who come drama-free.

As obfuscated as the world is, some people continue to make it worse, maybe as a way of drifting away from you because you not good enough for them or maybe, they have their own reason which are too embarrassing to mention, so the best option they thought would be applicable is to give you the silent treatment as if they never even knew you existed. I’m not complaining, not even in the slightest bit, but it leaves me with the question: Is the notion of ‘the older we grow, the wiser we get’ a misleading hypothesis or is it actually the other way around – ‘the older we get, the senseless we become’? I’m still trying to get my way around this childishness.

Treacherous behaviour and backstabbing have become the trending trait among the friends that I have lost, maybe they’re sending out the ‘check us out now’ message through their unripe posts, but see if I care. They’ve been displaying their behaviour on social networks and quite frankly, it sends out the wrong message. ‘I’m immature and I’m suffering from a great deal of low self-esteem’ is the message they’re sending out me. Mind you, these people are 25 and above. Is that normal behaviour for a person of that that age group? Even worse, another claims he doesn’t have anything against me and that ‘we’re cool’ but action speak otherwise, or I’m reading too much into it or just plain dumb? I don’t think so. Not communicating and acting strangely to someone you consider your friend says something.

Either way, people make their choices at the end of the day and every day I perilously think about the good friends I’ve lost and hoping they’re doing great wherever they are, in their careers, in life in general and that they’ve found better friends – friends whom are of ‘substance’ and ‘best people they have met in their life’. I sincerely hope their insecurities and inanities will fade away – I can’t say as they grow older as time is on their side – even though they claim to be ‘young’, arg...I forgot that hypothesis doesn’t work, not with me anyway.